Yet, saying goodbye to those self promises is not the only alternative. Resolutions are a good way to motivate, actualize and crate change. The key to handling these resolutions is to not get discouraged.
The Makings of Change
It is true that sometimes the heat of the moments leads a person to make too many resolutions that are challenging, stressful and life altering. Attempting to achieve really difficult resolutions can be like starting a marathon after shooting one self in the foot! Often too much is too much and it becomes almost impossible to keep the resolutions.
Reuters, the international news service reports that the top New Year's Resolutions almost always include: quitting smoking, losing weight or getting fit and/or creating financial fitness (www.reuters.com). Any one of these resolutions is laudable, but all three are difficult and to put all three together can be an overwhelming proposition.
Sometimes sheer numbers can be the agony of defeat. While it is great that someone can think of twelve things they want to change in life, change is tough and making twelve life changes can be a daunting possibility once the novelty has worn off. Try making a more modest three resolutions, this allows for greater commitment to the change and enhances the possibility of success.
Remember that motivation is the key to success. Honestly ask yourself: is this something I really want? If the answer is yes then resolve to make it happen. Make a list of the resolutions and jot down why it is important. Add some ideas of how you are going to seek support to be successful.
Share the list with people who can help make it happen. Friends and family can be a great resource for support in making change. Pick folks who will listen to cigarette cravings, go to the gym or offer company as an alternative to shopping and spending money.
Resolve and Resolve Again
If by the middle of January, the resolutions have fallen by the wayside, don't give up. If a change is important, then start again. Just because a cigarette pack was bought and smoked or a week went by without the tread mill, all is not lost. Simply take a breath, note where and why the resolution was broken and start again. Change is worthwhile and if that change is important to the maker then there is no reason to give up. Start again.
Resolutions do not have to be the New Year joke. With some commitment, motivation, support and realism, making New Year Resolutions can be a positive and healthy way to enhance living.
Kathy Schlossmacher - I am a former teacher and social worker with degrees in psychology, social work and theology. I have many personal interests including ...
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